Mr Chris wrote:
Mimi wrote:
No-one's trying to have anyone 'put off' the forum, MrChris, but all the same it was something that I thought was a bit questionable and felt strongly about. I'm sorry if you think that I or anyone else was being overly opinionated about what someone you knew from elsewhere said, but this is what I meant when agreeing with GJ about finding it hard to say something in reply to what I thought was quite a nasty idea simply because other people knew the person posting. I have nothing against Kizzy, having never encountered her before, and didn't mean to cause offense, but I myself found what was being said quite offensive. I would have been far more forthright in saying so if it had been someone that I have known for years on WoS saying it but now your post makes me think I should have held my tongue because people championed the idea with 'you're ace!' which I found, frankly, quite confusing.
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I'm surprised you thought she was being entirely serious, to start with.
Secondly, I'm surprised that it was
so offensive to you that you were uncontrollably driven to have a go at someone who's just arrived.
Whoa...(!) Firstly, I wasn't 'having a go' at anyone - I was responding to what someone had said - whether that person had 'just arrived' or not had bugger all to do with it. Secondly, I was not 'uncontrollably driven' - I said I waited until the next day to write what I did. Thirdly, is someone is being made 'very very drunk' then the approach is not a passive one if the person being sought out isn't in full control of making decisions.
lastly, I am not being judgemental about someone the minute they arrive - what on earth difference does it make if that's their first or 1000th post? I'm sorry that it was part of someone's opening gambit - but, what? If someone 'well established' had said it then I was OK to find an issue there, but because it was one of someone's opening statements about themselves I am not? I had read one other post by this person and welcomed them in as much as I good - I was glad to have a bit more female company on these forums, but this, I found a bit off, and I said so.
I also kept my post as non-personal as I could make it - I said that I didn't think that it was an acceptable thing for
anyone to do - male/female/straight/gay... I wasn't singling anyone out
Sorry, Mr Chris, but I disagree entirely with you on this. I am sorry that I disagree with something that someone you know from elsewhere has said, but that's just the way I feel.