Mr Chris wrote:
Mimi wrote:
No-one's trying to have anyone 'put off' the forum, MrChris, but all the same it was something that I thought was a bit questionable and felt strongly about. I'm sorry if you think that I or anyone else was being overly opinionated about what someone you knew from elsewhere said, but this is what I meant when agreeing with GJ about finding it hard to say something in reply to what I thought was quite a nasty idea simply because other people knew the person posting. I have nothing against Kizzy, having never encountered her before, and didn't mean to cause offense, but I myself found what was being said quite offensive. I would have been far more forthright in saying so if it had been someone that I have known for years on WoS saying it but now your post makes me think I should have held my tongue because people championed the idea with 'you're ace!' which I found, frankly, quite confusing.
I'm surprised you thought she was being entirely serious, to start with.
Secondly, I'm surprised that it was
so offensive to you that you were uncontrollably driven to have a go at someone who's just arrived.
Whoa...(!) Firstly, I wasn't 'having a go' at anyone - I was responding to what someone had said - whether that person had 'just arrived' or not had bugger all to do with it. Secondly, I was not 'uncontrollably driven' - I said I waited until the next day to write what I did. Thirdly, is someone is being made 'very very drunk' then the approach is not a passive one if the person being sought out isn't in full control of making decisions.
lastly, I am not being judgemental about someone the minute they arrive - what on earth difference does it make if that's their first or 1000th post? I'm sorry that it was part of someone's opening gambit - but, what? If someone 'well established' had said it then I was OK to find an issue there, but because it was one of someone's opening statements about themselves I am not? I had read one other post by this person and welcomed them in as much as I good - I was glad to have a bit more female company on these forums, but this, I found a bit off, and I said so.
I also kept my post as non-personal as I could make it - I said that I didn't think that it was an acceptable thing for
anyone to do - male/female/straight/gay... I wasn't singling anyone out
Sorry, Mr Chris, but I disagree entirely with you on this. I am sorry that I disagree with something that someone you know from elsewhere has said, but that's just the way I feel.