Be Excellent To Each Other

I've no idea how best this should develop, but Ange said she wanted it.

The best wedding I've been to recently was that of two of my best friends who got married in the tithe barn at the Fleece Inn in Bretforton and then had a party in a marquee in the pub's garden afterwards.

Quite a DIY type affair with the cake being made by one of their friends, the pig for the hogroast coming from the farm of one of the bride's relatives and the entertainment being to ask all of their musician friends to bring instruments and have a session.

I'm going to grab two witnesses, haul the bride to the registery office, and get it done there and then. If the marriage lasts 10 years, we'll have an excellent party. If it doesn't, we won't have wasted 10 grand.

Either that or go to Vegas and get Elvis to do it.

I loved my wedding. Rural Idaho, under the mountains, out on open ground. Went from sunny afternoon to night. The one-legged mayor managed to get his wheelchair over the bumpy ground to marry us, we smoked a pipe in a native American ceremony, my brother gave the best ever best man speech, it was perfect.

My GF wants to marry me (or at least I think she does from all the hints she drops).

Which is quite scary. Not yet little lady kthanx.

It's made worse that I'm reaching that age where I get invited to weddings a lot now. 2 last year. 3 this year...

I was only recenly married April I really enjoyed our wedding.

I posted a few pics on here.

I hope all my weddings were as good as my first one. I've got to get married again, because I'm determined to have 'Everything About You' by Ugly Kid Joe as the song for my first dance.

Being married is acebest, Lave. There is no downside.

Our wedding was awesomes. Also cheap - it helps that we were able to have the reception at my in-law's, of course. Big country gardens are brillo. Everyone seemed to enjoy themselves, and we kept it as informal as possible. Also - getting married in a church in the middle of a cider apple orchard is ace in every conceivable way.

We had the time warp for our first Dance

Sweet!

It started off as a normal crap slow dance thenstopped and then Timewarp started. It was quite funny, well we thought it was.

Do you still require the chloroform, skimasks, pickaxe handles and transit van?

I'm getting married in Vegas in October. I believe that Squirt did something similar in 2008.

I'm getting married, apparently.

It's an elaborate ploy to get you to take Ange somewhere nice on holiday. I can't conceive of any other reason she'd suggest it.

Relax girls. I'm still unmarried.

Find out if Gamestation do Wedding Lists.

Short version:

Me - big old atheisto.
GF's dad - big old religiouso

Me + GF's dad = a struggle at the best of times. We've quite different backgrounds and so on.

GF's sister & (especially) her husband are atheists. But GF's dad forced them to have a religious wedding. At his church. This involved going to church for 3 months to prove they were religious to the vicar.

I'm not having that battle yet.

Convert to Islam. it'd be fucking hilarious.

Ha - we got married in the local church to my wife's parents' place. No going to church involved. Thank god. I may have held a different view on the matter had that been the case. We did have to meet the vicar a couple of times before hand for "chats", but that was it. And besides, he wasn't very religious. He went on about sechs quite a lot.

Can't you just lie and say you're a godder?

Christ. I thought church weddings were all about pretending to be religious for a day, not longer.

Have an internet wedding. As server owner, Grim... can probably perform them, you know, like a ship's captain can.

Good work guys.

Now, any hot tips for a wonderful wedding day?

Don't marry myp.

Married last year. Most awesome day. Looked expensive, wasn't, mainly because whatever we could, we did ourselves.

Make sure it's somebody else's wedding.

Invite plenty of Beex-ers!!

Just relax about it, your friends are there to support you, so what every happens your friends will enjoy it.

The day is about you two getting married, don't let the event overtake that.

The whole point is that if I committing to someone for the rest of my life then I want the ceremony where I say that to mean something. I don't want to spend the day lying as it is not really a good start to things.

It would make the proceedings a sham and I wouldn't feel married in any significant way. (Oh and the GF feels the same about this).

That and the truth of the matter is - I don't believe in God, I don't believe in heaven, and I've only got 50 odd years of existence left before I no longer exist. To know that. Except that. And then say I want to give those 50 years to you - is a lot more fucking beautiful than GF's sisters wedding where the priest prattled on about an eternity together in gods arms.

So bollocks to it.

Don't get pissed. I'm amazed I stayed sober all day, but it was well worth it. The day goes in such a blur you'll find it hard enough to reemember it as it is, without getting legless too.

Preparation, preparation, preparation.

And for the minimum of stress, make it clear to friends and familiy that you are doing what you want to do, not what everyone else wants or expects.

There's a good chance I'll go through with it if I'm drunk, though.

Have it another country, so other people have to plan it for you and do all the hard work. I just had to put on a suit and turn up.

Anyway, it's your wedding day. It's automatically going to be the best day of your entire life, so don't worry too much about making it the best day ever. If you see what I mean.

We had two weddings. The actual wedding in Idaho, which was pretty informal as these things go, then the fake wedding in the UK for everyone who didn't go to the States, which was far more formal, with seating plans and suchlike.

Both wonderful, but guess which was more fun!

But I'm a man, which means I know nothing of these things.

Oh, and for Gods sake, work together on it. Nothing worse than one half of the couple taking over, because what actually happens is it pisses off the other half. And then the fun begins...

We had to go to her church once, and 'my church' (the one local to where we lived, that I had never been to) once, to hear the banns being read, and that was it.

I should really raise my concerns about the Disney theme sooner rather than later.

Dude, you should totally bagsy the Lion King costume.

We heard our banns read about four times, I think (bit of an arse when the church is 90 miles away, but hey ho).

You should have stopped it, Grim. Four times is too much. Use the bannhammer.

You can't be drunk, or they won't allow the wedding

Will they allow it if you don't have a sense of humour?

No, so you are screwed

O RLY?

Dude, you started to be mean, so am I not allowed to reply in kind?

You can - it's just you don't have to earnestly answer every flippant remark. It makes you look like you didn't get it.

Just the way I am. How was I to know you were joking

Bless.

Well, that the Wedding Day Fight arranged.

I don't fight... I am normaly in a comfy chair, watching the world go by, or at the bar.

I wish I could remember what music we had for our first dance.

Other than that, the wedding was awesome. We had the registry office on the Saturday with just close family and friends, then a church blessing on the Sunday to which everyone in the whole world was invited.

My only regret is not insisting that we leave the church to the Stormtrooper March.

The imperial march would have been awsome!!