flis wrote:
Cras wrote:
That was sorta my point. Only the parents care.
Oh man, I had my last kid 16 years ago and the level of shit parents have to "care" about now is unreal. I sit there with my friends, who all have little kids under 5, unable to even comprehend the handfuls of money they throw at stuff. Stuff I wouldn't even dream existed, that they do because a Facebook group said so, or an online parenting thing. Just get off the internet, put it down.
Yeah, thinking about it, parents annoy me.
I’ve been thinking about this more today, due to unrelated things, and I remember the other high pressure parenting ‘decision’ before having Darwin was the pressure to have a really calm, beautiful and painkiller-free birthing ‘experience’.
When preparing to push a 9lb+ baby out of your body, don’t reject those pains, light some candles, put on your favourite live songs, get some scented oils out and have a romantic dance with your partner.
I had a drug-free birth, of a 9lb+ baby (I keep writing that as I can’t remember how much he weighed!
) not through choice but hospital crapness, and midwives that did not believe my baby was coming out of me when he was. Man... I do not recommend it. It’s not a badge of honour for me. It left me with PTSD and a fear of things that has changed my life.
Obviously, I should be annoyed by that, and will be, but the bit that I’m a bit miffed about is the suggested purity of birth being ‘spoiled’ if you take the ‘easy’ route of help. That somehow you’ve failed.
If I could go back and get some help or relief through that birth, I would.