Jem wrote:
asfish wrote:
I'm not advising, I agree 100% that breast feeding is the best thing. That said I've also seen a number of friends in pieces with guilt when they couldn't do it after trying really hard for weeks.
Recently we had a lactation consultant snip a tongue tie on our son. She told my wife not to take the advice of a specialist to try our son on formula for 48 hours to rule out allergies.
She told my wife that her supply would dry up and that she should feed him all the time as his weight has dipped a bit
So 4 weeks after that my wife spoke with her again and told her that our son was still upset etc.
Her advice was try the formula then
I've found this sort of bad and contradictory advice from a lot of people in this field (NCT, Midwifes etc)
So sorry if it looked like I was anti breast feeding, not the case at all
It's not about whether or not breastfeeding is the "best thing", it's about making casual throwaway statements of advice based on nothing more than a snippet of information. You need a much bigger picture to be able to make a judgement call on whether or not a baby needs formula top-ups that we just don't have. Offer your sympathies, offer your personal stories, sure... but when you say "there is
no issue doing X" when that is patently incorrect, we have a problem.
Ok see what you mean so maybe so a bit more info...
The weight loss was not due to breast feeding issues, it was reflux, he was getting more than enough milk from my wife, but at the same time was sick a lot. So a paediatrician upped the dose of the medicine, telling us that GP’s tend to always start low and work up with dosing whilst she preferred the other way around. She also said that no women could provide enough milk to catch his weight up so in came the bottle to supplement.
So I guess the no issue thing came from me thinking about what I said to my wife at the time, she was feeling guilty and a shit mother etc, so I said there was no issue with what was suggested as she was not going to be breast feeding any less, but at the same time it wasn’t possible for her to make enough milk to build his weight up. We did it for 6 weeks and then went back to 100% breastfeeding as her supply was always been used 100%
Have the same issue with our 2nd child he is windy and very hard work, he is 5 months now and my wife breast feeds him all the time as it appears that the comfort of this helps him get his wind out. He also has the sleeping pattern of an adult and is awake all day going down at 8-9pm for 5-6 hours
Again we were advised to give him a diary free formula and nothing else for 48 hours, my wife refuses to this, so I’ve said whilst this may not be the magic cure we should try it and if not then she will be having a hard time of things until maybe solids start. She has accepted this and whilst we have understandable days when she gets pissed off she is coping. Don’t really know how she does with a lively 4 year old as well.
Babies are amazing at even a young age, ours refuses to take a bottle of expressed milk from my wife and goes mental if she tries. I can take the same bottle and within 5 seconds he takes it!? Its like he knows that bottle is not the normal from mum, but sees it as a welcome bonus from me