Lonewolves wrote:
Mr Dave wrote:
Lonewolves wrote:
Mr Dave wrote:
Lonewolves wrote:
Mr Dave wrote:
And because behaving like a violent twat will get you an entire queue of women.
Err, no. The 'bad boys gets the women' trope is fallacious. It was invented by men who think they're 'nice guys', but who are actually stalkerish creeps.
Except not really.
May fit with how you view the world. But yeah. No.
Evidence? Because you're talking out of your arse, I'm afraid.
Yeah, I don't think me talking about things I've seen in the past are really going to help convnce you, as it's an ideological block for you.
But basically what you're trying to do is to try and convince me there's no such colour as blue, because you've never seen blue or because the people you surround yourself with have pursuaded you that blue doesn't exist.
It happens. There's solid reasons for it to happen from an evolutionary biology point of view. But strangely, we're often meant to ignore the millenia of evolution that have lead to how our brains work because it's uncomfortable.
Utter nonsense, Dave, and very insulting. Just because you may have experienced seeing someone who has been in abusive relationship and not leave it doesn't mean that they 'prefer' men who are abusive - anecdotes are not data, after all - it is a lot more complicated than that.
Quote:
Numerous studies indicate that victims who contact the police
during a domestic dispute or briefly leave an abusive relationship are often at high risk
for eventually returning to that relationship and experiencing continued abuse (Brookoff,
O'Brien, Cook, Thompson, & Williams, 1997; Herbert, Silver, & Ellard, 1991; Martin et
al., 2000; Snyder & Scheer, 1981). Despite the fact that so many victims return to their
partners and continue to be physically assaulted, victims may be unaware of their
potential for returning to the abusive relationship and the risks involved in remaining in
that relationship (Herbert et al., 1991; Martin et al., 2000). Although some evidence
suggests that victims will permanently leave an abusive relationship within two years
after the initiation of violence (Gortner, Berns, Jacobson, & Gottman, 1997), additional
findings indicate that the victim may repeatedly leave and return to the batterer before
eventually ending the relationship (Schutte, Malouff, & Doyle, 1988).
From UNDERSTANDING STAY/LEAVE DECISIONS IN VIOLENT
RELATIONSHIPS: A BEHAVIOR ANALYTIC APPROACH
Kathryn M. Bell and Amy E. Naugle
In Behavior and Social Issues, 14, 21-45 (2005)