Trooper wrote:
When I was doing a more regular commute I used to see the same old guy, standing at the same place, getting the same seat. I used to get on with him and do the same but the seat across the carriage from him, but we never even looked at each other, let alone acknowledge or, god forbid, talk. Yet this is a guy I saw every day for a few months and spent 50 minutes a day in close company with.
However there is a train I get sometimes that has a "commuting club" on it. A group of 4-5 guys who meet up on the train and chat the whole way. It's very weird.
This aspect of commuting always amuses me. On a legal case I was once working on, I had occasion to travel with a QS from Leeds. We were being jostled by various people in a crowd attempting to get into a lift out of a tube station (I forget which, but there was no stair exit), and I spent the whole time saying sorry to random people, despite the fact that I wasn't the one doing the pushing. I saw he was smirking at me, and he said "spot the Northerner!"... I was a bit taken aback, not least because I'm actually from Essex (though have been in the Northwest for 20 years so I daresay I've gone native). But he explained that bona fide Londoners, especially commuters, are quite the rudest people on Earth in these type of situations and most would rather die than have to so much as acknowledge a fellow human being on the tube or train, let alone say 'sorry' to him.
Fascinating to watch a crowded tube carriage - totally stuffed to the point people's faces are buried in others' armpits (what a way to live, I could not stand that myself) - yet still everyone manages to stare precisely into their alotted, tiny bit of ceiling space or wherever,
where no-one else is looking. Even eye contact, it seems, let alone actual conversation, is quite the
faux pas of the century, despite the almost comical, ludicrous circumstances?? It's considered "weird" that anyone should want to talk with anyone else, despite seeing each other every morning and evening for God knows how many months, years, decades. Amazing.